One philosopher once said that “Marriage is meant to keep together not

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One philosopher once said that, “Marriage is meant to keep together, not just when things are good, but particularly when they are not. That’s why we take marriage vows, not wishes.” Marriage are not just when things are good. Marriage is not about the convenience that you will receive or have when that couple is already married. When it comes to marriage, usually other people would think first is about a long-lasting relationship. Honestly, when I was a kid I also used to think that when people are getting married they are meant for each other forever and I think up until now this can be seen to other couples out there. According to the Webster dictionary, marriage is “the legal union of a man and a woman as husband and wife” – couples should become more aware of the commitment that they are making when they enter marriage. Marriage is one of the most important decision in everybody`s life. You choose to live your whole life with one person. When people decide to get married, they think and dream of having a lovely family, raising their children together and dedicating their life to each other. They promise to keep their love through the whole life. The circle of our existence is like that. Marriage can be either successful or not. The deal is that couples make their choice here by themselves. If it is a love match, feelings will last for a long time – the duration is measured by the desire of two. If it is marriage of convenience, the result will be visible pretty soon. Money and luxuries cannot replace true passion. Now or later, each person is looking for care, dearness and true amour. Because, marriage is not a movie – it is not a drama or telenovela. As I have understood the encyclical paper marriage is a very wide meaning. It has a lot of duties and obligations. It is not just marrying your love. It is deeper than that. Marriage has a lot of branches, like responsible parenthood, your actions towards your community, the problem that the spouses facing, and marriage is not focusing just to the two of you but with God as well – cooperating with God in the generation and rearing of new lives. In marriage the both of you are working towards your journey as a husband and wife to attain the true happiness and fullness of life with your children. In marriage you love and respect with your whole you towards your spouse and children. In marriage there are lots of hindrance or problems that you and your spouse may face, but do not ever forget that God is always there for the both of you. Just strengthen your faith and pray. Other people out there that ended up failed marriages, they would ask those perfect couples, what is their secret towards having a long and lasting relationship. Based on my knowledge and my parents saying, there is no secret to have a relationship like that. A good marriage requires only one single thing – to fall in love many times with the same person, cherishing all the feelings. In fact, there is no perfect marriage. It is all about finding your person and enjoy all the imperfections and differences, making your life awesome. As a good marriage is something that should be created by two loving people. It is not something that just happens from time to time.Conjugal love is the embodied love of husband and wife in marriage. It involves the appeal of body and instinct, the power of feeling and affectivity, the aspirations of spirit and will. According to Pope Paul VI in Humanae Vitae (9), it is not merely a question of natural instinct or emotional drive. It does not appear when you are just craving for love for a day. It is not a food that you have your different moods and cravings. There is only one person for this conjugal love, and that is your spouse. The second one is about the free will. Conjugal love includes free will. The both of you must have trust to each other. It is not only to survive joys and sorrows of daily life, rather trust is the foundation of the relationship. It helps the husband and wife grows their relationship even stronger and happier. Conjugal love is total. The husband and wife shares everything to each other with no exceptions. The husband or the wife is already contented for what he or she has. In conjugal love, you are giving yourself to your spouse. It is not just about the material things that you have had received from your spouse but the contentment that you have your husband or wife by your side, is already and more than happiness. You just not think for your own sake but mostly, your partner. Because you love him or her and you cannot afford to lose your partner.Conjugal love is also by being faithful to your spouse until the last breath of yours. That’s why vows of each other are really important. It is not just something that you say in front of her and the altar – but it is something that the both of you can hold on to, forever. Fidelity means complete commitment, trust, and respect between husband and wife. Inappropriate interactions with another person can erode fidelity. Marriage are not perfect, but the husband and wife can make it perfect. If you truly love that person, why would you do something that would definitely hurt him or her? Being loyal to your spouse is not enough but being faithful is. When the both of you are faithful to each other, your marriage will end up a healthy and happy marriage life.Lastly, love is fecund. Getting married is not just about you and your spouse are already called husband and wife. Some meaning of getting married is to have a family, and it includes having some children. Conjugal love will then be much bigger and much happier. Children are really the supreme gift of marriage and contribute in the highest degree to their parents’ welfare.According to Paul VI in Humanae Vitae (10), responsible parenthood needs a lot of attention and the husband and wife’s full awareness to their obligations towards their children. Because, before children learns something in school, they first learn everything from their parents – about life, about the good and the bad things that they should not do, about everything to be exact. Responsible parenthood concerns to the objective moral order which was established by God. It requires the husband and wife to keep the right order of priorities, recognize their own duties toward God, themselves, their families and human society. Responsible parenthood means an awareness of, and respect for, their proper functions. In the procreative faculty the human mind discerns biological laws that apply to the human person. Children learn more from what you are, to what you teach. There is this article that I’ve read, and it says there that, responsible parenthood refers to the capacity of parents to respond to the needs and aspiration of the family and children. It is an ability of parents to detect the need of happiness and desire of children and helping them to become responsible and responsible children. The size of a family should be a shared responsibility of a couples or parents based on their available resources and the standard of living they wish to achieve. It is not bad to have limited children if the parent can provide everything that they need. “The family, in its varying forms, constitutes the primary focus of love, acceptance, and nurture, bringing fulfillment to parents and child. Healthful and whole personhoods develop as one is loved, responds to love, and in that relationship comes to wholeness as a child of God.”Birth control is the use of contraceptives to stop or prevent pregnancies. Contraception is “any action which, either in anticipation of the conjugal act [sexual intercourse], or in its accomplishment, or in the development of its natural consequences, proposes, whether as an end or as a means, to render procreation impossible” (Humanae Vitae 14). These are the grave consequences of artificial birth control is increased marital infidelity and a lowering of moral standards, increased lack of respect for women, including seeing a woman as a sex object and as an instrument to satisfy sexual pleasures rather than seeing her as a partner in marriage; and the danger of empowering public authorities to regulate the lives of others. Because if people would find that out, of course people would definitely shame you and they will judge you. Other men might not respect you and will just play on you – just for pleasure. If the both of you are not ready to have a baby, then do not have sex. The child that is in the woman’s womb does not know anything yet. They do deserve to live in this world, they deserve to see God’s creation. That baby is God’s blessing. Having a baby is a big blessing to anyone out there, because others cannot have a baby due to health circumstances ang then, you? Who are we to do this? Family planning enables people to make informed choices about their sexual and reproductive health. Family planning represents an opportunity for women to pursue additional education and participate in public life, including paid employment in non-family organizations (WHO)Pastoral directives are the teaching of the Church regarding to the proper regulation of birth is a promulgation of the law of God himself (Humanae Vitae, 20). It is stated that this law resolute purpose and great endurance to restore its human life, native truth and to be guided by the holy spirit and by God. The value of self-discipline, actually, this is also related to responsible parenthood. The couple should be then ready and value the true meaning of family life. They must acquire complete mastery over themselves and their emotions in order to accept and control their natural drives then there can be no uncertainty at all of the requirement for abstinence. When the couple already accomplished this, only then the love and the married life comes after. Because if you, yourself doesn’t have any value of self-discipline, how can you take care of your future children? How can you teach them to be responsible enough in life? Husband and wife must do it whole-heartedly so that their personalities could be improved and enriched with spiritual blessings. And everything will then follow. It helps in tackling challenges of different sorts. It encourages in a couple insightfulness and adoring thought for each other. It excites in them an awareness of their obligations. lastly it gives upon guardians a more profound and progressively successful impact in the instruction of their kids.Next is the promotion of Chastity, according to the Webster dictionary, chastity is the state or practice of refraining from extramarital, or especially from all, sexual intercourse. Nowadays, a lot of people or specifically, teenagers are too liberated. They can be easily fall in love with mere words. Chastity is important because it teaches us virtues rather than techniques. It enters the world of one’s heart and soul and purifies them. Chastity teaches us our self-worth, it is more about love, self-giving and making sacrifices rather than just self-pleasuring. Chastity is a matter of how ardent one’s love for God and others is.Appeal to Public Authorities and seeking true solutions, if something is bad happening you may appeal to the public authorities. But nowadays, public authorities cannot resolve any of the family problems that is usually happening because usually, the public authorities are the ones who starts up a problem. Sometimes only the public authorities are the ones protected or safeguarded while the normal families are not. According to Pope Paul VI in Humane Vitae (23), the family is the primary unit of the state. Therefore, any legislation that will oppose the Church must be not tolerated. Because there are other ways to solve and save the population problem but not executing them.Next is the scientists, their impact and knowledge can truly be helpful to our world. Specially to the welfare of the married couples that are not yet ready to have a family. The scientist can make favorable to a proper regulation of birth. The Christian Couples, Recourse to God, and Family Apostolate, when the couples are already married, their duties as a Christian does not end. Rather, both of them will be as one and together they will faithfully fulfill their duties. While having their torch brightly burning towards their journey. God let them together be as one because God entrusted them a task of making visible to men and women the holiness and joy of the law which united inseparably their love for one another and the cooperation they give to God’s love ( Pope Paul VI, Humanae Vitae (32)). Now, this is interrelated to the recourse to God, since they are already married – husband and wife must face their problems together with the strength of faith and guided by God and by doing the right thing. If one of them made a sin, they should not feel that their world was breaking apart, rather they must be humble and preserving and ask for mercy of God and do the Sacrament of penance. In this way the couple can achieve the perfect marriage. The husband and wife must be equal to one another. While in Family Apostolate, in here when the married couple did the right thing. When the both of them followed and obeyed God, they can both help a lot of people by sharing their experiences with their journey. They can spread the good word and be a good example to other couple that wants to get married too or just normal people.Next is to the Doctors and Nurses, as for their professions, they must and always continue to help other people’s lives, they must save them. Just like in marriage, the married couple could also ask for help to them, the doctors and nurses is in the position to give the couples right counsel and right direction towards having a fruitful marriage. Next is the Priest and the Bishops, there is this article that I’ve read, and it stated there that, bishops have the care of multiple congregations and appoint, ordain, and discipline priests and deacons. They sometimes appear to be called “evangelists” in the New Testament. While, the priests have the responsibility of teaching, governing, and providing the sacraments in a given congregation. The both of them can also be called the messenger of God. They are the ones who spreading the word of God. They are the ones who teaches us the word of God and to do what is right from wrong. To married couple, they can also ask for guidance and advice to the priests because they are the ones who knows it deeply about marriage. The priests should focus more and spread more the Church’s teaching about marriage. The priests and Bishops will clean the spouses their souls and bless them a peaceful and a happy marriage life. They are both helpful in married life because couple could also talk and ask some advice to the Bishops. If everything is perfectly followed and obeyed the human society will be enriched with fraternal charity and made more stable with true peace.Whatever professions you end up with as long as you are doing your job right without stepping people’s dignity or just themselves – God can see that. God can bless you.Christian Compassion, according to Pope Paul VI, Humane Vitae (41), teach married couples the necessary way of prayer and prepare them to approach more often with great faith the Sacraments of the Eucharist and of Penance. Let them never lose heart because of their weakness. When married couples are in the point of arguing or has lots of problems or when they feel like giving up. They must not lose hope, they must not lose the faith to God. Just talk to the priest or to other people that could help your relationship and pray. Because God is always there for us, he never judged us. But he will rather save us from everything.Lastly, the great work, if people would be aware to their actions and if people will do the right thing, a great progress would be visible to the human society. People will attain the true happiness and fullness of life. We all go through tough times. We go through hardships of every kind. But through pain, and hard work, we will receive lots of blessings both on the world and on the church. Especially on married couples, we implore from the God of all holiness and pity an abundance of heavenly grace as a pledge of which we gladly bestow our apostolic blessing (Humanae Vitae, 31).“Strength and growth come only through struggle and effort. Be someone’s strength. Be someone’s inspiration. Be someone’s reason to never to give up.”